The inner child represents the essence of who we were in our formative years – the innocent, playful, and vulnerable aspect of ourselves that experienced the world with curiosity and wonder. It embodies our emotions, needs, and desires from childhood, including both happy experiences and painful memories.
Our early experiences shape our perspective, beliefs, behaviours and relationships in adulthood.
Unresolved childhood wounds and traumas affect all area's of our adult lives. They can manifest as emotional blocks, mental and physical health issues, self-sabotaging patterns & behaviours, parenting, relationship and money issues.
Understanding and nurturing our inner child is crucial for personal development, mental, emotional & physical well-being and also our spiritual growth. As we build a healthy relationship with our inner child we begin building self esteem & become more self aware.
By reconnecting with our inner child, we gain insight into the root causes of our emotional struggles and behavioural patterns. Healing and nurturing this wounded aspect of ourselves allow us to release past hurts, cultivate self-love and compassion, and reclaim our authentic selves.
Healing the wounds of the inner child involves acknowledging and processing the pain and unresolved emotions associated with the
parent - child relationship. These are known as Mother & Father wounds.
Inner Child healing requires cultivating self-awareness, self-compassion, and forgiveness towards oneself.
Inner child work, Root-Cause Therapy and self-care practices can be instrumental in helping clients to address and heal these wounds, allowing individuals to reclaim their sense of self-worth, foster emotional well-being and establish healthy boundaries and
relationships with themselves and others
Work with me directly 1:1, in person or online in my 8-week Inner Child Healing Program . I'll take you on a transformative journey of self-discovery, allowing you to reconnect with your authentic self & embrace all aspects of who you are. Through guided exercises, inner child work, and therapeutic techniques, you'll uncover hidden layers of your psyche, heal past wounds, break free from negative patterns and learn how to cultivate a deep sense of self-acceptance and self-love.
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Your Inner Child resides inside of you
regardless of age, sex, religion or race.
They are there, waiting for you to find them.
To reconnect; to see, hear and validate them,
They've been trying to reach you for so long.
Since the day they were forced to hide away.
They're the nattering voice inside your head,
the emotions you try so desperately hard to escape,
They're your unhealed pieces.
Every time you feel angered,
Your inner child is telling you they're hurting,
Whenever you feel saddened,
your inner child is begging you for comfort.
Find them, hold them tight and love them
like they've never been loved before.
Listen to them and reassure them.
Be the constant one they never had 💕💕💕
Written by Jaynie - Adjusted Thoughts
The Mother wound of the inner child refers to the emotional and psychological wounds that arise from unmet needs, neglect, or unhealthy dynamics in the mother-child relationship during childhood.
The Mother wound can manifest in various ways, impacting an individual's self-esteem, sense of worthiness, and ability to form healthy relationships.
Feeling abandoned or rejected by the mother figure can leave a lasting imprint on the inner child, leading to adult issues of insecurity, fear of abandonment, and difficulty trusting others.
When a child's need for love, validation, and acceptance are not met by the Mother, they may internalise feelings of unworthiness and inadequacy. This can manifest as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, self-doubt, and a constant need for external validation.
The absence of a secure attachment with the mother figure can contribute to feelings of insecurity and instability in adult relationships. Individuals with a Mother wound may struggle with intimacy, fear of intimacy, or have difficulty setting boundaries.
The Mother wound may lead to a relentless pursuit of perfection as a way to gain approval and validation. This can result in unrealistic expectations, self-criticism, procrastination, and a fear of failure.
Individuals with a Mother wound may develop co-dependent patterns in relationships, seeking external validation and approval to fill the void left by unmet maternal needs. This can lead to difficulty asserting boundaries and a tendency to prioritise others' needs over their own.
The Father wound of the inner child refers to the emotional and psychological wounds that arise from unmet needs, neglect, or unhealthy dynamics in the father-child relationship during childhood.
Similar to the Mother wound, the Father wound encompasses the deep-seated beliefs, patterns, and emotional scars that stem from the perceived absence of nurturing, love, validation, or support from the paternal figure.
When the father figure is emotionally unavailable or distant, the child may internalise feelings of abandonment, rejection, or inadequacy. This can lead to a sense of unworthiness and difficulty forming secure attachments in adulthood.
A father's failure to validate the child's feelings, achievements, or experiences can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and low self-esteem.
The absence of positive reinforcement and encouragement from the Father may hinder the child's self-confidence and ability to assert themselves in the world.
Fathers often serve as role models for their children, imparting important values, beliefs, and behaviors. When the father figure is absent or fails to provide positive guidance, the child may struggle with identity formation, direction in life, and a sense of purpose.
Unmet needs for love, attention, or affirmation from the father figure can create a void that individuals may seek to fill through external sources, such as relationships, achievements, or substance abuse. This can lead to patterns of seeking validation and approval from others or engaging in self-destructive behaviours.
Lack of healthy boundaries or inconsistent discipline from the father figure can contribute to difficulties in setting boundaries, asserting oneself, and maintaining healthy relationships. Individuals with a Father wound may struggle with codependency, people-pleasing, or a fear of conflict.